Ten scenarios, written out
One: the two-minute inbound callback
Buyer brief: you enquired on a website form yesterday, you have enquired with two other suppliers, and you are busy. Hidden constraint: you need delivery within three weeks or the project slips. Concession rule: you agree to a longer conversation only if the seller establishes relevance within a minute. What good looks like: purpose stated immediately, two qualifying questions before any pitch, timeline surfaced, a specific dated next step.
Two: the price reveal
Buyer brief: you like the product and you were expecting a lower number. Hidden constraint: your real concern is a payment schedule, not the total. Concession rule: you move if the seller asks what would make the number workable. What good looks like: the number is stated plainly without apology, followed by a question rather than an immediate discount.
Three: send me a proposal and I will get back to you
Buyer brief: you want the meeting to end. Hidden constraint: you are not the decision maker and do not want to say so. Concession rule: you reveal the other stakeholder only if asked who else will review it. What good looks like: the seller agrees to send something, then asks who will read it and proposes a review call before the document is sent.
Four: we already use someone else
Buyer brief: you are reasonably happy with an incumbent. Hidden constraint: renewal is in four months and one part of the service annoys you. Concession rule: you mention the annoyance only if the seller asks what you would change. What good looks like: no attack on the incumbent, one good question about what is not perfect, and an ask for a small future-dated conversation.
Five: the WhatsApp price shopper
Buyer brief: you message asking only for the rate. Hidden constraint: you are comparing three suppliers on total delivered cost, not unit rate. Concession rule: you engage if the seller asks about quantity and delivery. What good looks like: a reply that gives a real answer and asks one question, in the medium the buyer chose, without demanding a call.
Six: the site visit that turns into a complaint
Buyer brief: you open with an unresolved service problem. Hidden constraint: you also have a new requirement you have not mentioned. Concession rule: you raise the new requirement only after you feel the complaint was properly heard. What good looks like: the complaint is acknowledged and given a named owner and date before any selling happens.
Seven: the discount ultimatum
Buyer brief: you demand a specific reduction or you walk. Hidden constraint: you have already chosen this supplier internally. Concession rule: you accept a trade, such as a longer term or a faster payment schedule. What good looks like: the seller trades rather than concedes, and names what they need in return before agreeing to anything.
Eight: the deal you should disqualify
Buyer brief: you want a bespoke variation the seller cannot supply, and you have no budget this year. Hidden constraint: none, this really is a bad fit. Concession rule: you never become viable. What good looks like: a polite, quick disqualification with a route back later, and no forty-minute attempt to rescue it.
Nine: the renewal conversation started too late
Buyer brief: your contract ends in three weeks and you have been quietly evaluating alternatives. Hidden constraint: switching would be painful but you want to be taken seriously. Concession rule: you stay if you get a credible plan for the thing that went wrong. What good looks like: honesty about the lapse, no defensiveness, one concrete commitment with a date.
Ten: the referral ask
Buyer brief: you are a satisfied customer with two minutes. Hidden constraint: you will help if the ask is specific. Concession rule: you say yes only to a named, narrow request. What good looks like: no general request for introductions, one specific person or type of person, and an offer to draft the message.